Do You Ever Want to Scream?

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I’m having a moment. Do you have a few minutes – NOW? reads a text from a former colleague. My boss is making me miserable, laments a 30-year-old lawyer in Boston. Should I go for that promotion, look for a totally different position or accept this misery for now? asks a young Mom.

Yes, you get it…finally, sighs a senior executive who spends so much time managing her team and her family that there is no time left for personal relationships that fulfill her. No one to get her. We hear these comments all too often. We might have even made some of them ourselves. Where do we go when we need a wise, listening ear?

We can be so busy managing others, being managed, or dealing with the impossible demands of trying to be everything to everyone – at home and at work – that we miss one of the key ingredients to finding fulfillment. Success in business and at home, work/life integration, making a difference, a feeling of significance amidst the busy – all of these are great goals, but we suspect there is still something missing. We’ve been there.

Time and time again, we’ve found the real missing piece is connection. Connection with other successful executives — smart, goal-oriented, trying to do and have it all — who long for more. Too often we overlook the importance of belonging. But we hear it in your voices, see it in your faces — a longing to feel connected. As working moms, we’ve felt it too. We wished for female mentors when we were navigating our careers and juggling the demands of family life. Someone who could guide us. Someone who could validate our feelings, give us the courage to act, or maybe talk us off the ledge. Our mentors (each other) came later in life, but it doesn’t have to be that way for you.

It’s within our power to help find and be the connections that empower, support and complement. And complementing others surely beats competing with them – unless of course, it’s UNC basketball! Then it’s game on!

Life is much more enjoyable when we’re part of a community – even a small community. Most of us want to belong. Knowing we have somebody who will take the time to listen, knowing someone has our backs…these things make the bad days not as bad…and the good days, even better! If you don’t have one, decide now to find a work friend, mentor or coach.

Connecting with others gives us a sense of inclusion, connection, interaction, safety, and community. Your vibe attracts your tribe, so if you want to attract positive and healthy relationships, be one! Staying connected and getting reconnected feeds the flow of goodness which empowers our humanity. ― Susan C. Young Reach out if we can help guide you to more meaningful connections.